I've done makeup and hair for many weddings and I have seen it all or at the very least, I've seen A LOT! Truthfully I very rarely work with bridezilla's. What I can tell you is sometimes there is someone else in attendance on the wedding day that acts like a "bridezilla" or acts in a way that disrupts the positive energy causing unnecessary stress for everyone involved. I keep myself out of any wedding drama because I'm there to make the bride feel and look fantastic and that's my job and I take it seriously. Unfortunately I have witnessed some brides get very upset over unwarranted behaviour from someone else that is close to them and it really puts a damper on their happy occasion. I thought I would write a blog this week about this very common problem as I'm sure many of you have experienced this type of behaviour or are concerned it might happen to you.
So, how do you deal with personalities like this and what are the best ways to avoid this from happening to you?
1. Pick wisely
When planning your wedding party, think logically about who should be part of it. This is YOUR big day and you do not want or need negative energy around you. Sometimes you need to put yourself first and when planning your wedding day everyone expects you to! Make tough decisions early in the planning stages so that you lessen the stress level for yourself and everyone else involved later on.
2. Communicate early on and often
If you have a friend or a relative you know will need "extra" attention on your big day or they may become disruptive and you simply cannot avoid them being present or being part of your wedding day, talk to them early on about your concern and keep talking until you feel the problem is resolved. If they are truly that important to you, you are almost certainly as important to them as well. They may not even be aware this is something they do and talking about it openly and honestly will clear the air and in all probability bring you closer together.
3. Watch, listen and learn
Doubtless you'll have been invited to and/or have been involved in other weddings before your own wedding takes place. Watch, listen and learn from others successes and mistakes. Recall which weddings you had the most fun at and remember why it was so special. Likely the bride and groom took everything in stride and made everyone feel welcome and the people around them followed suit. Learn from those positive experiences and put them into play for your own wedding day.
When your wedding day comes, leave all the drama behind you and enjoy your special day! Let no one take your special moments away from you.
Hope this helps! ; ) See you all next week!
